Springtime Blooming 💐

Hello playthings!

I hope you’re defrosting from the winter and feeling yourself (and your desires!) coming back to life. I know as I shake off the winter stagnation and step into the springtime flourish, I’m feeling so energized by all of the growing and blooming around me.

You know it’s spring when I actually wear colors!

Eclipse Musings

Perhaps it was the eclipse this week (I was lucky enough to be in a spot where there was total coverage—I can’t put into words how moving and awe-inspiring the experience was), but I’m trying to find more ease within the inevitability of life changes and letting go of the habits and dynamics that don’t serve me. I find myself coming back to this specific quote from Octavia Butler’s Parable of the Sower, one of my favorite science fiction books,

All that you touch

You Change.

All that you Change

Changes You

The only lasting truth is Change.

God is Change

For others who have had a challenging eclipse season, I hope this passage resonates and brings a bit of solace. The more I ruminate on these words, the more I try to place them in the context of my work as a Domme. When subs come to me, my hope is that through our time together, they feel changed—transformed through a cathartic encounter. I hope to guide them through new, perhaps even uncomfortable or painful experiences, and in the process, create a container where they feel held in their vulnerability. My favorite sessions are the ones that deal in the worst of human emotions: pain, anger, frustration, trauma, sadness. What happens when we hold space for the messy, difficult feelings in the context of BDSM? How can kink be a vessel of change in which difficult emotional states are transmuted into lessons of resiliency? Whether it’s in a session or in life generally, I hope we can all sit in those uncomfortable moments more, perhaps even make peace with them, and feel the weight of their fullness while understanding that they, too, will change. For better or for worse, nothing is forever.

An image I took of the eclipse this week. It’s no NASA pic, but it’s been a nice reminder to embrace change in all its forms <3

Tour Announcements

On the theme of change, I have quite a few upcoming tours planned for this spring and summer!

I’ll be in Boston from May 9th-12th! I’ve really been enjoying coming to Boston every few months and playing with familiar and new subs alike. I have a few regular session spots available still and 1 (potentially 2) FTT spots available. Inquire on my website (but do it soon—my time in Boston gets snapped up quickly!)

I am also in the midst of planning a West Coast tour with one of my absolute *favorite* Dommes—stay tuned for who! We’ll be traveling to SF and LA from June 10th-15th (approximately). More details to come, but put it in your calendar  😉

Finally, I’ll be visiting Chicago from August 14th-17th with one of my best friends and utter evil genius, Empress Wu! I missed visiting one of my favorite cities last year so I’m thrilled to be visiting again and wreaking havoc with one of the best of them! More details will be released as we solidify our plans but if you can’t tell by now, I’m a planner, and I appreciate when eager subs reach out to show their devotion in advance.

Beyond the Dungeon…

As many of my friends and devoted subs know, I lead a very active and busy life when I’m not terrorizing people in the dungeon. Recently, I’ve started organizing with Decrim NY, an organization dedicated to decriminalizing, decarcerating and destigmatizing the sex trades in NY state.

In May, a large group of sex workers, lawyers, organizers, and allies are heading up to Albany to lobby our political representatives for their support of the Stop Violence in the Sex Trades Act, a bill which would comprehensively decriminalize adult, consensual sex work in New York state if passed. This would be a huge milestone in our fight for SWer rights, and our hope through this upcoming lobby day is to convince more representatives to endorse the bill so it has the chance of passing in the next legislative session. It takes a lot of money to bus, feed, and generally organize dozens of people to get upstate—it would mean a lot if you could give to our fund so we can continue to do this important, life-saving work!

That’s it for now—thanks for stepping into my digital world for a brief moment. If you’d like to do that in person, you know where to find me.

xoxo

Mistress Valentine