Frequently Asked Questions
I filled out your form BUT I HAVEN’T HEARD BACK. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
First and foremost: CHECK YOUR SPAM! Unfortunately many of my response messages get sent there automatically, so make sure to periodically check your spam in the week following your form submission. I usually respond to emails within a few days. If you still haven’t heard back from me, this means that your submission was probably not thorough, thoughtful, or respectful. Please write in complete sentences and put some consideration into your inquiry, and try again.
Where do you session?
I session in discreet, fully equipped dungeons and play spaces in Manhattan and Brooklyn. I also offer and enjoy outcalls, especially in boutique and high-end hotels. Feel free to inquire about specific outcall sessions (keep in mind additional outcall tribute will be necessary).
How long have you been a Domme?
I officially started my Domme training with Lucy Sweetkill in May 2021, but I had been playing in my personal life and attending educational workshops for a few years before then. I believe kink and BDSM lifestyles require lifelong learning, and I am certainly an enthusiastic learner! I am a naturally pervy and curious person who enjoys playing with submissives who introduce me to new kinks and play styles. If you would like to read more about my history and Domme journey, please visit my about me page.
What are your COVID-19 safety protocols?
I take the health and safety of myself and my clients very seriously. I require all clients, regardless of vaccination status, to produce a negative COVID test 2 days before our session. I have all of my updated boosters and get tested regularly, and all dungeon equipment and tools are thoroughly sanitized before and after each session. I am happy to wear a mask in-session as well.
Can I book a same-day session?
Generally, I do not take same-day sessions. I am a planner and like my scenes to be well thought-out, which means I need time to fully think through all the fun things I’m going to do to you. With that being said, I am more open to accepting same-day sessions with those I’ve built an established kink relationship with, at an increased tribute rate.
I want to serve you but I don’t live in NYC—what can I do?
If you are not based in NYC, the easiest way to keep up to date with my kinky shenanigans is to follow my Twitter and Instagram and to sign up for my newsletter. I offer phone (Niteflirt), texting (Sextpanther), and video sessions for those unable to play in-person. Additionally, I sell my used underwear, socks, and toilet paper and am open to shipping them. Ordering things from my wishlists (especially leather or books!) is always a good way to catch my eye.
Do you session with women / trans / nonbinary people?
As a queer woman, I adore sessioning with people of all sexualities and gender identities, especially other women and queer/trans individuals. Nothing makes me happier than helping you feel affirmed in your gender and sexuality in our session. Please do not hesitate to reach out! (I offer select sliding scale sessions for lower income individuals with marginalized sexual/gender identities).
If I have a specific fetish / kink / interest that’s not listed on your interests page, does that mean you don’t offer it?
Not necessarily! If I don’t have a specific activity listed on my interests page (and it’s not listed as one of my limits), feel free to inquire about it. I am always looking for opportunities to learn new skills and try different types of play. Kink education is a lifelong process!
What are your limits?
I DO NOT offer any of the following activities:
Smoking fetishes
Wrestling
Any contact with my genitals
Roman Showers/Vomit Play (mine or yours)
Switching/Bottoming
I do not play with anyone under the age of 18
I do not use the word “slave”. As a white woman, it’s not my place to invoke the language of slavery, especially in a country where the violent legacy of slavery has not been meaningfully addressed. If you would like to read more about this topic, I highly recommend Michelle Alexander’s book The New Jim Crow, Stephanie E. Jones-Rogers’ book They Were Her Property: White Women as Slave Owners in the American South, and Angela Davis’ book Are Prisons Obsolete?)
I do not utilize homophobic and transphobic language/stereotypes in my play, including the use of the f-slur
I do not participate in anti-Semitic play or cater to Nazi fetishes
Additionally, I do not session with any law enforcement agents, retired or current
What types of sessions do you offer?
I offer a variety of session types, including, but not limited to:
Domination-Only
A traditional, BDSM experience in a dungeon or playspace. Don’t worry, you’re in good hands… (2 hour minimum, other than FTT sessions)
Social Rendezvous
Feeling nervous about jumping right into a session with me? Let’s grab coffee or lunch and chat about vanilla and kinky things alike (no domination is included in this offering, 1 hour minimum).
Dinner and Domination
I consider myself a burgeoning foodie—let’s spend our time together enjoying a fine meal at one of NYC’s best restaurants, followed up by an evening of torturous, beautiful debauchery. (4 hour minimum)
Shopping/Spa Excursion
For those who are more service oriented, treating me to a fully-financed shopping/spa day is a wonderful way to help me feel rejuvenated and looked after. Take me to get a massage and facial before you help me try on shoes at Saks Fifth Avenue. There are so many fun, discreet ways to incorporate play into these excursions! (4 hour minimum)
Fly-me-to-you and Sponsored tours
Two of my favorite things combined: travel and kink! Want to spend some quality one-on-one time together getting to know each other, exploring a city, and immersing ourselves in longer term scenes and dynamics? A FMTY is a wonderful fit! Perhaps you’d like to bring me to your city but don’t want an exclusive arrangement; a sponsored tour might be more your speed. Fill out my contact form to inquire about either of these options.
I also offer select cash-meets and used panty/sock/toilet paper drop offs and shipping.
What is your tribute? Is your tribute negotiable?
As Domme, my tribute is reflective of the time and care I put into creating each scene and my investment in my own BDSM education. I prefer a bespoke approach to my tribute, which changes based on what activities we are doing. Regardless of scene type, I reward those who can fill out my submission form thoughtfully and completely, and who follow my entire intake process fully.
Do not ask me to lower my tribute—I put a lot of effort into building my scenes and developing my skills and my tribute rate reflects this.
What is your cancellation/rescheduling policy?
I understand that life happens and plans change, but I also expect you to be respectful of my time. If you must cancel or reschedule, please do so at least 36 hours in advance. Your deposit will be applied to the rescheduled session, as long as it is rescheduled within a 30-day period from the original date. For all rescheduling done less than 36 hours in advance, you forfeit your deposit and will owe 50% of the session tribute. For cancellations while I am touring/traveling, you must let me know at least 3 days in advance.
What if I want you to wear something specific?
As a Dominant female, I wear what makes me feel comfortable and confident in a scene, but I am open to hearing outfit suggestions, especially if you’re a fetishist, as I particularly enjoy leather and nylon. If you have a very specific outfit-type that you would like to purchase for me, we can further discuss to find a mutually agreed upon outfit. Otherwise, you should feel honored to see me in whatever outfit I choose.
Do you play with novices?
I do! I gladly play with novices who have no professional or personal experience with BDSM. One of my favorite parts of being a Domme is helping novices explore their kinky interests safely and without judgement. Let me help you bloom into a fuller version of yourself! I also offer social excursions (such as grabbing a meal or tea) if you’re new and would like to get to know me better before booking a session.
Do you require a deposit?
I require a 25% non-refundable deposit for all sessions and social rendezvous, regardless of the length or tribute amount. I offer a variety of discreet options for securing your deposit.
What are your requirements if I’m seeing you for the first time?
For all new clients, I require either a paid video consultation or a social excursion consultation (such as a meal or coffee). I require consultations because I find it important to connect so that we're on the same page and able to get to know one another better (which will make our play a lot smoother).
For experienced players, I give priority to those who can provide two references of professional Dommes that you’ve played with in the last two years. If this is your first time seeing a Domme professionally, I do not expect a reference.
How should I prepare for a scene?
The best way for you to prepare for our time together is to arrive showered, clean, sober, and prepped for any specific activities we may be doing. You should be hydrated, have eaten a light meal, and feel that you are in a good mental place. Ensure that you have re-read all of my protocols in our correspondence. Have the tribute in an envelope (a handwritten note is always appreciated). If you would like to bring me a little something, I always enjoy flowers, a nice candle, or a book from my wishlist. Tips are also always appreciated (and common in the industry).
Do you OFFER duos with other Dommes?
I absolutely love doing doubles with other Dommes, particularly with:
Domina Kio Astra (Based in Boston)
Miss Koda V (Based in Pittsburgh)
Do you travel outside of NYC for sessions?
I enjoy outcall scenes in NYC and beyond (you will cover the cost of transportation and lodging, if necessary). I adore FMTY (fly-me-to-you) trips and sponsored tours. I am a bit of a travel bug—let’s explore a new destination together, eating and shopping our way through a city during the day and hiding away at night in a hotel room where I’ll torment you. I also tour around the US often, so perhaps I’ll be in a city near you soon. Follow my Twitter and Instagram and sign up for my newsletter to keep up to date on where I will be! ✷